​Building Your Self-Esteem: Small Steps, Big Change

Have you ever wondered, "What is self-esteem?" You've probably heard the word before, but what does it really mean?

Self-esteem is how you see your own worth. It's the belief that you matter, that you have value, and that you deserve good things. When someone has low self-esteem, they often think poorly of themselves — and that can make everyday life feel really hard.

The good news? You can build your self-esteem, and it starts with small, everyday choices.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Everyone is different, and that's a good thing! Comparing yourself to others only steals your joy. Focus on your own journey.

Replace Negative Thoughts Pay attention to the way you talk to yourself. If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself. Try replacing "I'm not good enough" with "I am growing every day."

Write Down What Makes You Great Make a list of your strengths, past wins, and things you like about yourself. Keep it somewhere you can see it often.

Use Daily Affirmations Start each day with a kind word to yourself. Something like: "I believe in myself" or "I am worthy of good things." It may feel awkward at first — but it works!

Surround Yourself With Good People The people around you shape how you feel about yourself. Choose people who lift you up, not tear you down.

Find Meaningful Activities Doing things that give you a sense of purpose — volunteering, creating, helping others — can do wonders for how you feel about yourself.

If low self-esteem is affecting your daily life, talking to a counselor can help. The Counseling Centers at PCHAS offer in-person and virtual counseling for children, adults, couples, and groups. You don't have to figure it out alone. Call (833) 208-3201 or visit www.pchas.org/schedule-all to connect with a therapist.